Events & Meetings

November PFLAG Twin Cities meeting

“I do”  The Legal, financial, and social benefits of marriage.

The recent expansion of marriage equality has opened opportunities and provided new benefits to the LGBT community not dealt with previously. This month’s program will cover the benefits of all legally recognized marriages, in which our three panelists will each share their specialized knowledge, with a Q & A session  following.

Trisha Falvey, M.A., is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a practice in St. Louis Park, MN. She created a Pre-marital education and counseling program specifically for same gender couples in 2009 and is thrilled that now, upon completion, same gender couples receive a discount on their marriage license.

Melissa J. Houghtaling, j.d. has developed a family law practice that is focused on cost-effective and creative solutions for traditional and non-traditional families of Minnesota.

From the exciting time when relationships and families are just beginning to the difficult time when relationships are changing and/or ending, Melissa believes that individuals and families are best served when expectations are clear, honest, and based in realistic outcomes.


Christopher D. Bentley,MBA, CFP®, CLU®

 Ameriprise Financial Services, Inc
.Financial Advisor / Wealth Management / Vice President.


Chris works with couples and individuals to provide personalized financial, investment advice, and guidance to help achieve financial security and for retirement preparedness.


Sunday, November 16 at 2:00 PM

Mayflower UCC

106 East Diamond Lake Road

Minneapolis, MN 55419

October 19th PFLAG meeting

Youth Tell Their Coming Out Stories

October 11th is National Coming Out Day and for our October PFLAG meeting we have invited LGBTQ youth to share their personal coming out stories with you.

Sunday, October 19, 2014 at 2:00 PM

Mayflower UCC

106 East Diamond Lake Road

Minneapolis, MN 55419

Parents of Trans youth speak out.

In the last decade there has been a substantial increase in the number of families who are acknowledging and supporting children who exhibit gender variant behavior.  Join us for our August meeting, which will feature a panel of parents sharing their stories of challenges and triumphs navigating the educational and legal system and medical communities to help their children live as their affirmed gender.

Leslie Lagerstrom is the creator of the blog Transparenthood™, which chronicles her family’s experience raising a transgender child. She is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post and is a speaker for Welcoming Schools – a nationwide initiative  to foster safe classroom environments.

Jennifer Tell is a resident of White Bear Lake, MN.  She is married and has 2 children, a transgender son who is 10, and a daughter who is 8. She runs a dance studio in the northern metro.

Sunday, August 17, 2014 at 2:00 PM

Mayflower UCC

106 East Diamond Lake Roaf

Minneapolis, MN 55419

July at PFLAG Twin Cities

Preserved in vaults set in caverns deep beneath the ground, directly under the Anderson Library at the University of Minnesota, lies the Tretter Collection.  A part of the Special Collections and Rare Books Unit, the Tretter Collection houses, researches, and preserves one of the largest collections of LGBT historical materials in the world.  The archives consist of over a half mile of boxes including books, periodicals, organizational records, personal papers and ephemera from around the world, with material in 58 languages.

Our July program will feature Lisa Vecoli, Curator of the Tretter Collection in GLBT Studies, who will survey a few milestones in 20th century GLBT history, discussing what is widely known and what is often overlooked. Lisa will also discuss why, even with all of the information available on the internet, we still need an archive dedicated to GLBT thought, history, culture and experience.


Author: Lisa Vecoli has served on the Board of the Tretter Collection since its inception in 2000 and has been the Curator of the Tretter Collection in GLBT Studies at the University of Minnesota since 2012. Her goals are to preserve GLBT history, diversify the voices in the archive and add to her personal collection of Lesbian Pulp novels.


Sunday, July 20th at 2:00pm
Mayflower UCC
106 East Diamond Lake Road
Minneapolis, MN 55419

PFLAG at Pride. June 28 and 29, 2014

         This being Pride month, we are not hosting our regular 3rd Sunday meeting or our small support groups as we will be at the Minneapolis Pride Festival and have a float in the Pride Parade again this year. 


        You are most welcome to join our Pride Parade contingent or give us a shout out as we pass by. 


        When you are enjoying the Pride Festival in Loring Park, please stop by our PFLAG booth and say hello.  Our booth number is G054 (Green section, booth space 54).

We are in the same place we were last year. (see map below)



Opportunities for you!

Rather than just sitting on the sidelines again this year, take an active part in Pride with us!
Join us at our Pride Festival booth in Loring Park.  If you are familiar with PFALG Twin Cities and would like to help out at our information booth by visiting with people, please let us know with an email to:
We still need volunteers for 3 hour shifts on both Saturday and Sunday, June 28 and 29.
We are also offering you the opportunity to be a part of the largest parade in Minnesota.   
Our contingent in the Pride Parade on Sunday can always be bigger.  Just dress in summer attire and we will supply you with a rainbow umbrella and signs to carry, or beach balls to hand out to the crowd on Sunday, June 29.  For details on joining us in the parade, email us at


Please show your support for PFLAG by joining us at our information booth or walking with us in the parade!

Sunday, May 18th, 2014 PFLAG TwinCities Meeting

We meet at the Mayflower Church, 106 East Diamond Lake Road, Minneapolis, MN 55419 on Sunday, May 18th at 2:00PM.

PFLAG Twin Cites is pleased to be hosting an interactive discussion panel on LGBT Mental Health Care and Resources at our may meeting. Each of the four panel members will speak briefly on their focus topic, followed by a question and answer session with the audience. 


John Salisbury, Director of Programs – Rainbow Health Initiative.
Focus Topic: 
Measuring mental health and social connection in the MN LGBT communities. 

John Salisbury received a Master’s in Public Health from the University of Minnesota in 2013, with a concentration in health policy and public health administration. He has worked with Allina Health, Interact Center for the Visual and Performing Arts, Special Olympics New York, and Jupiter. He also has a long history of involvement in issues affecting the LGBTQ community through his involvement with the Twin Cities Gay Men’s Chorus, Clare Housing and Hennepin County Public Health’s Red Door clinic.


Liana Yang, BA, LADC/LPCC – Counseling Intern at RECLAIM  

Focus Topic: Transgender Competency in heath care professionals & discussing Understanding Gender vs. Reconsidering Organization Approach to best-care.

Liana Yang, BA, LADC/LPCC, Counseling Intern at RECLAIM.  RECLAIM works to increase access to mental health support so that queer and trans youth may reclaim their lives from oppression in all its forms.  Reclaim partners with all youth ages 13 – 25 who are marginalized because of their gender identity, gender expression and/or sexual orientation. Through this partnership we strive to create a safe physical, emotional and relational space so that youth may reclaim their lives and identities from oppression in all its forms. We believe that the holistic healing work requires all of us to be engaged. We believe in building the leadership capacity of those most impacted and having them lead our efforts in community and healing.


Julie Tilsen, MA, LP, PhD

Focus Topic: Clinical work with youth who construct queer identities.

Julie Tilsen, MA, LP, PhD is the author of Therapeutic Conversations with Queer Youth: Transcending Homonormativity & Constructing Preferred Identities (Rowman & Littlefield, 2013), as well as professional journal articles and book chapters.  She is the training director for the International Center for Clinical Excellence, an associate of the Taos Institute, and the 2011 recipient of the Distinguished Service Award from the Minnesota Association of Marriage & Family Therapy.  Julie’s work is featured in several counselor training videos produced by Alexander Street Press including:  Queer Theory in Action: Theoretical Resources for Therapeutic Conversations (parts 1 & 2); iYouth: Kids, Counseling, and Pop Culture; Feedback Informed Treatment; Supervision of Feedback Informed Treatment; and Therapy as Social Construction. 


Alex Iantaffi, PhD, LMFT, Assistant Professor of Human Sexuality at U of M Medical School.

Focus Topic:  To be announced.
Alex Iantaffi, PhD, LMFT, is an assistant professor in the Program in Human Sexuality in the Medical School at the University of Minnesota, and a is a licensed marriage and family therapist and editor-in-chief of the International Journal of Sexual and Relationship Therapy. He originally trained in the UK as a systemic psychotherapist. Iantaffi’s therapeutic work focuses on transgender and gender non-conforming youth, sexuality, and relationships. He has conducted research and published on gender, disability, sexuality, deafness, education, sexual health, HIV prevention, and transgender issues. His scholarly work has been increasingly focused on issues of intersectionality and sexual health disparities.  


In April, PFLAG Twin Cites will not be holding our monthly program and support groups as the 3rd Sunday falls on Easter Sunday.

On May 18 at 2:00 PM, we will be hosting a discussion on LGBT Mental Health Care Resources with an interactive panel of professionals.  Mayflower Church, 106 East Diamond Lake Road, Minneapolis, MN 55419

In June, instead of our regular meeting and support groups, we will have a booth in Loring Park for Pride and a float in the Minneapolis Pride Parade.  Please consider joining PFLAG at Pride by helping out at our booth or by walking with us in the parade. 
Contact: for details.

Sunday, March 16th,



A Faith Perspective

PFLAG Twin Cites is pleased to be hosting an interactive discussion panel on religious faith. Each of the four panel members will speak briefly on the intersection of their faith and LGBT issues, followed by a question and answer session with the audience. 


Father Shannon Kearns graduated from Union Theological Seminary in 2009 with his Master of Divinity degree.  He currently resides in the twin cities and is a priest in the Old Catholic Diocese of New Jersey and has recently started a new church in the Uptown area of Minneapolis called House of the Transfiguration.  Their focus is transformed people and transforming Minneapolis…..they integrate a traditional Catholic mass with new music and are inclusive to ALL people.

John Fournelle is a queer theologian, having graduated from Bethel Seminary with a Masters of Arts (Christian Thought) in June 2013. His thesis was on developing an integrative soteriology using the works of Paul Tillich and Gustavo Gutiérrez, but also wrote several papers on queer theology. His current research interests are queer Christian sexual ethics, and the intersections of the thought of Paul Tillich and queer theology.


 KirstenCackoski from First Christian Church, has spent many years reconciling her Christian faith with her

 belief that ALL people are children of God and need to be loved and accepted, especially by the church.  For her it is very important

 that all children feel safe and loved at home, school, and places of worship.  Kirsten has a son who is gay.

Reverend Sirry Alang was born and raised in Cameroon and moved to Minnesota in 2010.  She is currently a PhD candidate in Health Services Research at the University Of Minnesota School Of Public Health. Sirry and her wife Kim enjoy being part of LGBT, faith, race and ethnicity, and health organizations and activism in the Twin Cities.

2 to 3:30 pm, February 19th, PFLAG Twin Cities Meeting

Avenues for Homeless Youth

Homeless gay youth are still prevalent in the Twin Cities area. Avenues for Homeless Youth has been helping homeless youths restart their lives. Their mission has been to provide emergency shelter, short-term housing and supportive services for homeless youth in a safe and nurturing environment. Through such service, Avenues seeks to help youth achieve their personal goals and make a positive transition into young adulthood.

The GLBT Host Home Program provides transitional living arrangements for 10 homeless gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender youth and young adults ages 16 to 21 in safe, supportive, volunteer host homes.

Raquel (Rocki) Simões has been at Avenues since 2007 and the manager of the GLBT Host Home Program, which she helped start in 1997.

Sunday, January 19th
PFLAG Twin Cities Meeting

Start the new year off right….

Make a New Year’s resolution to attend more PFLAG meetings!

For January, PFLAG Twin Cites is proud to be hosting an interactive discussion panel on the Minnesota Safe and Supportive Schools Act. Each of the four panel members will speak briefly on the proposed safe schools bill, followed by a question and answer session with the audience. This is the perfect chance for you to learn about the bill first hand and join in on the issue.
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