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February meeting at PFLAG

Please Join us for our February meeting as we explore the importance of race and ethnicity when it comes to gender and sexuality.
We hope to foster greater intercultural competence and sensitivity with those from different racial and ethnic backgrounds, understanding that not everyone comes out the same way.
Come prepared for an insightful and productive conversation with Lawrence Richardson, writer, pastor, social media strategist, and social activist.

Lawrence Richardson is the Pastor of the Shift United
Church of Christ and writer for The Salt Collective.

Thursday, February 19th, 2015 at 6:30 PM

In the 3rd floor Conference Center at
Sabathani Community Center
310 East 38th Street
Minneapolis, MN 55409

Our support groups will be held at 7:30 PM.

January at PFLAG Twin Cities

Join us in our new location for our January meeting and small support groups.


Sabathani Community Center

310 East 38th Street

Minneapolis, MN 55409


Thursday, January 15th, 2015 from 6:30PM to 8:45PM

Program 6:30 PM to 7:30PM.  Transforming Families.

Small support groups 7:30PM to 8:45PM


Directions if traveling from the north on Highway 35W:

Go south Highway 35W from Minneapolis and take the 35th Street exit.

Go left on 35th Street 4 blocks east to 4th Avenue South.

Go right on 4th Avenue South 3 blocks south to East 38th Street.

Go right on East 38th Street ½ block and turn right into the parking lot.


Directions if traveling from the south on Highway 35W:

Go north on Highway 35W towards Minneapolis and take the 36th Street exit.

Go right on 36th Street 3 blocks east to 4th Avenue South.

Go right on 4th Avenue South 2 blocks to East 38th Street.

Go right on East 38th Street ½ block and turn into the parking lot.

PFLAG Holiday Party


Please join us for our Annual PFLAG Holiday Party featuring the voices of the Calliope Women’s Chorus.  We will have food, beverages, entertainment, and socializing.

Our small support groups will be held upon request starting at 3:45PM.



Sunday, December 21 at 2:00 PM

Mayflower UCC

106 East Diamond Lake Road

Minneapolis, MN 55419  



November PFLAG Twin Cities meeting

“I do”  The Legal, financial, and social benefits of marriage.

The recent expansion of marriage equality has opened opportunities and provided new benefits to the LGBT community not dealt with previously. This month’s program will cover the benefits of all legally recognized marriages, in which our three panelists will each share their specialized knowledge, with a Q & A session  following.

Trisha Falvey, M.A., is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a practice in St. Louis Park, MN. She created a Pre-marital education and counseling program specifically for same gender couples in 2009 and is thrilled that now, upon completion, same gender couples receive a discount on their marriage license.

Melissa J. Houghtaling, j.d. has developed a family law practice that is focused on cost-effective and creative solutions for traditional and non-traditional families of Minnesota.

From the exciting time when relationships and families are just beginning to the difficult time when relationships are changing and/or ending, Melissa believes that individuals and families are best served when expectations are clear, honest, and based in realistic outcomes.


Christopher D. Bentley,MBA, CFP®, CLU®

 Ameriprise Financial Services, Inc
.Financial Advisor / Wealth Management / Vice President.


Chris works with couples and individuals to provide personalized financial, investment advice, and guidance to help achieve financial security and for retirement preparedness.


Sunday, November 16 at 2:00 PM

Mayflower UCC

106 East Diamond Lake Road

Minneapolis, MN 55419

October 19th PFLAG meeting

Youth Tell Their Coming Out Stories

October 11th is National Coming Out Day and for our October PFLAG meeting we have invited LGBTQ youth to share their personal coming out stories with you.

Sunday, October 19, 2014 at 2:00 PM

Mayflower UCC

106 East Diamond Lake Road

Minneapolis, MN 55419

Parents of Trans youth speak out.

In the last decade there has been a substantial increase in the number of families who are acknowledging and supporting children who exhibit gender variant behavior.  Join us for our August meeting, which will feature a panel of parents sharing their stories of challenges and triumphs navigating the educational and legal system and medical communities to help their children live as their affirmed gender.

Leslie Lagerstrom is the creator of the blog Transparenthood™, which chronicles her family’s experience raising a transgender child. She is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post and is a speaker for Welcoming Schools – a nationwide initiative  to foster safe classroom environments.

Jennifer Tell is a resident of White Bear Lake, MN.  She is married and has 2 children, a transgender son who is 10, and a daughter who is 8. She runs a dance studio in the northern metro.

Sunday, August 17, 2014 at 2:00 PM

Mayflower UCC

106 East Diamond Lake Roaf

Minneapolis, MN 55419

July at PFLAG Twin Cities

Preserved in vaults set in caverns deep beneath the ground, directly under the Anderson Library at the University of Minnesota, lies the Tretter Collection.  A part of the Special Collections and Rare Books Unit, the Tretter Collection houses, researches, and preserves one of the largest collections of LGBT historical materials in the world.  The archives consist of over a half mile of boxes including books, periodicals, organizational records, personal papers and ephemera from around the world, with material in 58 languages.

Our July program will feature Lisa Vecoli, Curator of the Tretter Collection in GLBT Studies, who will survey a few milestones in 20th century GLBT history, discussing what is widely known and what is often overlooked. Lisa will also discuss why, even with all of the information available on the internet, we still need an archive dedicated to GLBT thought, history, culture and experience.


Author: Lisa Vecoli has served on the Board of the Tretter Collection since its inception in 2000 and has been the Curator of the Tretter Collection in GLBT Studies at the University of Minnesota since 2012. Her goals are to preserve GLBT history, diversify the voices in the archive and add to her personal collection of Lesbian Pulp novels.


Sunday, July 20th at 2:00pm
Mayflower UCC
106 East Diamond Lake Road
Minneapolis, MN 55419

PFLAG at Pride. June 28 and 29, 2014

         This being Pride month, we are not hosting our regular 3rd Sunday meeting or our small support groups as we will be at the Minneapolis Pride Festival and have a float in the Pride Parade again this year. 


        You are most welcome to join our Pride Parade contingent or give us a shout out as we pass by. 


        When you are enjoying the Pride Festival in Loring Park, please stop by our PFLAG booth and say hello.  Our booth number is G054 (Green section, booth space 54).

We are in the same place we were last year. (see map below)



Opportunities for you!

Rather than just sitting on the sidelines again this year, take an active part in Pride with us!
Join us at our Pride Festival booth in Loring Park.  If you are familiar with PFALG Twin Cities and would like to help out at our information booth by visiting with people, please let us know with an email to:
We still need volunteers for 3 hour shifts on both Saturday and Sunday, June 28 and 29.
We are also offering you the opportunity to be a part of the largest parade in Minnesota.   
Our contingent in the Pride Parade on Sunday can always be bigger.  Just dress in summer attire and we will supply you with a rainbow umbrella and signs to carry, or beach balls to hand out to the crowd on Sunday, June 29.  For details on joining us in the parade, email us at


Please show your support for PFLAG by joining us at our information booth or walking with us in the parade!

Sunday, May 18th, 2014 PFLAG TwinCities Meeting

We meet at the Mayflower Church, 106 East Diamond Lake Road, Minneapolis, MN 55419 on Sunday, May 18th at 2:00PM.

PFLAG Twin Cites is pleased to be hosting an interactive discussion panel on LGBT Mental Health Care and Resources at our may meeting. Each of the four panel members will speak briefly on their focus topic, followed by a question and answer session with the audience. 


John Salisbury, Director of Programs – Rainbow Health Initiative.
Focus Topic: 
Measuring mental health and social connection in the MN LGBT communities. 

John Salisbury received a Master’s in Public Health from the University of Minnesota in 2013, with a concentration in health policy and public health administration. He has worked with Allina Health, Interact Center for the Visual and Performing Arts, Special Olympics New York, and Jupiter. He also has a long history of involvement in issues affecting the LGBTQ community through his involvement with the Twin Cities Gay Men’s Chorus, Clare Housing and Hennepin County Public Health’s Red Door clinic.


Liana Yang, BA, LADC/LPCC – Counseling Intern at RECLAIM  

Focus Topic: Transgender Competency in heath care professionals & discussing Understanding Gender vs. Reconsidering Organization Approach to best-care.

Liana Yang, BA, LADC/LPCC, Counseling Intern at RECLAIM.  RECLAIM works to increase access to mental health support so that queer and trans youth may reclaim their lives from oppression in all its forms.  Reclaim partners with all youth ages 13 – 25 who are marginalized because of their gender identity, gender expression and/or sexual orientation. Through this partnership we strive to create a safe physical, emotional and relational space so that youth may reclaim their lives and identities from oppression in all its forms. We believe that the holistic healing work requires all of us to be engaged. We believe in building the leadership capacity of those most impacted and having them lead our efforts in community and healing.


Julie Tilsen, MA, LP, PhD

Focus Topic: Clinical work with youth who construct queer identities.

Julie Tilsen, MA, LP, PhD is the author of Therapeutic Conversations with Queer Youth: Transcending Homonormativity & Constructing Preferred Identities (Rowman & Littlefield, 2013), as well as professional journal articles and book chapters.  She is the training director for the International Center for Clinical Excellence, an associate of the Taos Institute, and the 2011 recipient of the Distinguished Service Award from the Minnesota Association of Marriage & Family Therapy.  Julie’s work is featured in several counselor training videos produced by Alexander Street Press including:  Queer Theory in Action: Theoretical Resources for Therapeutic Conversations (parts 1 & 2); iYouth: Kids, Counseling, and Pop Culture; Feedback Informed Treatment; Supervision of Feedback Informed Treatment; and Therapy as Social Construction. 


Alex Iantaffi, PhD, LMFT, Assistant Professor of Human Sexuality at U of M Medical School.

Focus Topic:  To be announced.
Alex Iantaffi, PhD, LMFT, is an assistant professor in the Program in Human Sexuality in the Medical School at the University of Minnesota, and a is a licensed marriage and family therapist and editor-in-chief of the International Journal of Sexual and Relationship Therapy. He originally trained in the UK as a systemic psychotherapist. Iantaffi’s therapeutic work focuses on transgender and gender non-conforming youth, sexuality, and relationships. He has conducted research and published on gender, disability, sexuality, deafness, education, sexual health, HIV prevention, and transgender issues. His scholarly work has been increasingly focused on issues of intersectionality and sexual health disparities.  


In April, PFLAG Twin Cites will not be holding our monthly program and support groups as the 3rd Sunday falls on Easter Sunday.

On May 18 at 2:00 PM, we will be hosting a discussion on LGBT Mental Health Care Resources with an interactive panel of professionals.  Mayflower Church, 106 East Diamond Lake Road, Minneapolis, MN 55419

In June, instead of our regular meeting and support groups, we will have a booth in Loring Park for Pride and a float in the Minneapolis Pride Parade.  Please consider joining PFLAG at Pride by helping out at our booth or by walking with us in the parade. 
Contact: for details.